Most people who are into relationships would swear on being all truthful to their partners. Never hiding a fact, sharing their fantasies, giving a low down on their splendid lives, basically sharing absolutely everything and anything or making them believe that they share everything. That gets me to thinking how much is too much in relationships? Do you 'tell-all' in a relationship?
Most men would often tell their girlfriend/wife to share their most intimate secrets with them, which in turn would give them a sneak peek into their world. True or untrue, reality or fantasy: they seem to want to know it all. Going nude for yourself is one thing but baring it all even to your partner, another. How many men are willing to share the wild dreams/fantasies of their better halves? How much are we willing to let our guard down to a person we are so madly in love with? Is it better to hide our emotions and lead a make belief life? Is it advisable to keep revitalizing the relationship with pretentious and oh-so non existent attitude of ours?
Most men live in a make belief world. A make belief world that they themselves and we create for them. A world where everything seems to run smooth. A world where we run over our true selves to make them happy. A world where lies and deception win over sincerity. A world which is stranger than fiction itself!!
Physical intimacy forms a major part of any relationship, any normal relationship. Most of us would have at one point in time or the other fantasized about other men and a lot of men about other women. But does that mean that we do not love our partners? Is it the social dogma that stops us from sharing our most exclusive secrets with our partners? Or is it the fear of being judged and labelled?
A man of discernment would know the difference between right and wrong, reality and fantasy. But not always. Though we all want to be ourselves with people we love, what happens when it comes to sharing our darkest secrets and desires? Though we want them to laugh over our silly notions, what happens when the bouts of laughter turn into your worst nightmares? Though we want them to have a sneak peek into our lives, what happens when we are rejected and ejected from their lives after that?
Most men would want us to tell-all in a relationship. Most women would differ on that. There are things that are better left unsaid than unleash the devilish side of yours which never seem to go down with men well enough. We all want to revel in the closeness of our relationships and hiding that trifling side of our diabolic/wicked life does not seem like a lot to offer up for the one we love. Because no one really said we have to give up on that. For that we all have our 2 A.M girlfriends!!
Someone once rightly said,"Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living and if they are of interest to others, they would no longer be fantasies."
(P.S: Fantasies are substitutes for unpleasant reality and not the present pleasant life!!)
Most men would often tell their girlfriend/wife to share their most intimate secrets with them, which in turn would give them a sneak peek into their world. True or untrue, reality or fantasy: they seem to want to know it all. Going nude for yourself is one thing but baring it all even to your partner, another. How many men are willing to share the wild dreams/fantasies of their better halves? How much are we willing to let our guard down to a person we are so madly in love with? Is it better to hide our emotions and lead a make belief life? Is it advisable to keep revitalizing the relationship with pretentious and oh-so non existent attitude of ours?
Most men live in a make belief world. A make belief world that they themselves and we create for them. A world where everything seems to run smooth. A world where we run over our true selves to make them happy. A world where lies and deception win over sincerity. A world which is stranger than fiction itself!!
Physical intimacy forms a major part of any relationship, any normal relationship. Most of us would have at one point in time or the other fantasized about other men and a lot of men about other women. But does that mean that we do not love our partners? Is it the social dogma that stops us from sharing our most exclusive secrets with our partners? Or is it the fear of being judged and labelled?
A man of discernment would know the difference between right and wrong, reality and fantasy. But not always. Though we all want to be ourselves with people we love, what happens when it comes to sharing our darkest secrets and desires? Though we want them to laugh over our silly notions, what happens when the bouts of laughter turn into your worst nightmares? Though we want them to have a sneak peek into our lives, what happens when we are rejected and ejected from their lives after that?
Most men would want us to tell-all in a relationship. Most women would differ on that. There are things that are better left unsaid than unleash the devilish side of yours which never seem to go down with men well enough. We all want to revel in the closeness of our relationships and hiding that trifling side of our diabolic/wicked life does not seem like a lot to offer up for the one we love. Because no one really said we have to give up on that. For that we all have our 2 A.M girlfriends!!
Someone once rightly said,"Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living and if they are of interest to others, they would no longer be fantasies."
(P.S: Fantasies are substitutes for unpleasant reality and not the present pleasant life!!)
