Pursuit of fun !!!

What if the gossiping during an impeccable dinner at your favourite place turns out to be the most exciting conversations that you have had in a long time? For me, it was as delectable as a blueberry cheesecake !!

Whispering sweet nothings into his ears, dressed in a white kimono top with a pair of black jeans and white stilettos, hair tied up high in a ponytail, she could, any day, give a 20-something, a run for her money. What part of me screamed 'WOW', even I didn't realize it. Romance was in the air for the both of them. Not more than 25, the guy was all admiration for the lady.

'Cougar Dating'. Interrupted in my thoughts, I looked speechless (my favorite expression). Yeah, that's what my friend told me. A part of me wanted to sit there all night long and observe the lady. What is it in the older women that men are so drawn towards them? I mean, what does that leave us with? Older men???

Is it the confidence, comfort level, maturity, level headedness, independence, understanding, less complications or no strings attached? My friend said that most men reach their sexual peaks between the age of 25-35 years, whereas, for most women, the age lies between 35-45. "Women your age are needy." What kind of statement was that???

But, if I think of it calmly, he had a point. Men, unlike women, do not look for stability all the time. What they want is a female counterpart, who they can hang out with, without any strings attached. Here's where females my age take a back seat. How many of us are willing to date without any form of commitment. We, females, have an amazing visionary capacity and our imagination runs wild when it comes to dating men.

"When we can have friends who are older to us, then what is wrong with having a grilfriend who's double my age." To this, I asked, what happens when it comes to settling down? I was amused by the reply I got for this one. "Do you think guys think this far?" Yeah right, who was I kidding?

It all sounds too good to be true. A charmed circle of adoring men who crave older, glamorous females – and beautiful women who want to be admired and appreciated. Age is a number, not a barrier. But, how many couples are we talking about here? This reversal of the stereotype may be an important cultural shift or just a loopy-love deviation from the norm. Will these ripples turn into seismic waves in the 21st century?

Well, we definitely have to wait and watch out for this one. The important thing is the quality of what you share together. Love is meant to conquer all, isn’t it?

Bearish v/s Bullish !!!

Now, there's a friend of mine, who enjoys to a great deal, a good conversation. I say, who wouldn't? But here's the hitch, she expects everyone to enjoy that conversation, even if she's doing most of the talking. I say, who would?

How often is it that we realise the importance of good communication? We all want to do our share of talking and 'Lemme talk' talking and 'can't get over myself' talking and if that wasn't enough some 'preaching' talking. And then they expect us to say, Bring it on !!!

A good conversation is like a Bullish market, full of optimism, confidence and progressive expectations. Speculating about the other person's interests keeps the mind consistently working towards their changing levels of fascination towards us. And just like the bull, a bullish conversation provides you with a psychological thrust.

Who enjoys bearish conversation??? One which cannot self sustain, leave alone capturing the attention of others. Timing, here is the key point, which is often missed, leaving the other person gasping for breath.

After his 21st attempt at asking me out, I decided to give this guy one chance to take me out for lunch. Enjoying my orgasmic Pasta Arrabiata , I had already given this guy a miss. But sometimes, the most random of conversations can turn out to be Bullish. With his diversified portfolio of interests and experiences, he sure did manage to make a short run profit for himself.

An enticing conversation can open you up to something new and exotic. A rebound from a 'falling knife' situation is difficult but never an impossible task. Give in to your inhibitions and leave that tinge of apprehensiveness home to go all out and enjoy a Bullish conversation.

All perked up !!!

During the chaotic two months of my life, I happened to bump into a lot of my non existent 'relatives' and so called 'friends for life'. Heaven save me. I had absof**kinglutely no clue about them. Yes, my dad did mention them at times but I wondered if they were for real.

What happens when you lose the four most important people in your life to fate? Chaos !!!
But hold on, who's bothered about that. Not the people I mentioned above. They had more important things to talk about like, wait....too quick.

"Arre, itni badi ho gayi hai tu to. Ye Narender di kudi hai?" Ohh yeah, finally you realised. Thank You !!! Yes, I am my father's daughter. Well, if that wasn't enough, she had more important issues in her life like my age, my marriage, my sister (kinni soni hai !) and a lot of other bulls****ing issues which I couldn't help but ignore.
And here comes the part I (un)relished the most, My EX (Best friend Ofcourse). What in the world were you doing there? Ohh yes, my mom is like your mom and my brother, your younger brother and my lil' angelic sister, your closest confidante. So what does that make me? Ruins of your past!!! Give me a break.

If that wasn't enough, my heart goes all out to the person I randomly met. What with an exceptional display of emotions, care and affection, you thought you would win my heart and disappear. If only I was that naive a personality to handle !! But I guess that is what you were taught by Delhi College of Engineering and Charlotte!! No offence though.

There are certain things in your life that are worth gambling for, but you, my above mentioned people are certianly not one of those things. It would be very unfair on my part if I do not convey my special thanks to all the people who stood by me in my tough times.
Kriti, Manomay, Neha, Niharika, Swati, Nishant, Vinit, Navtej, Naveen, Abhishek, Silky, Tejbir, Ajay, Anubhuti, Gautum, Jiwan, Shashank, Rahul, Akanksh and all those who I cannot recall right now. If only, I could thank you enough. Kaustubh, you are one hell of a gentleman.

When real people fall down in life, they get right back up and keep on walking. I certainly am one of them and you (my so called relatives and friends) puhhleeezzz do not ever forget that.

(P.S: Sabu, happy???)

What women want???

During the interval of a movie, which I went to watch today, I happened to have this small conversation with my brother about the rules of dating.
Are there any he asked; to which I replied hell no !!!

But that got me wondering if in reality there are some rules to be followed. My unnamed ex, I remember used to tell me how a girl is suppose to behave on the first date, and on second and then on third and then finally, I asked him if there were any rules to be followed during break up too.

Just like guys, girls too like simple, uncomplicated, well mannered men, and yes you have to be comfortable of who you are. A good sense of humour and chivalry is icing on the cake. Looking good doesnt kill us either. Is it too much to ask? Some men might say yes, but, take a deep breath and think. Don't you scan the females top to bottom when it comes to choosing the 'one'.

While we take numerous sessions at the salons to look all appealing to your eyes, can't guys pretend that they care. Yes, not about us only. But, about themselves too. Not much to ask I guess!!

Yes, we like details. We like chivalry. We look for emotional connect. We cry. We talk, a lot. We try and then we buy even if most of us can speak Prada. We get jealous and yes we criticize other females who you guys gawk at. So what?

For us a relationship is like an investment, which most men fail to understand. We know we all can move on but you don't have to prove your point all the time. We are confused souls but give us some credit for making you happy by doing small things which mean the world to you. Look at us closely, you will find a kid in each one of us waiting to be pampered, loved and taken care of.

Just like 'Carrie' said "Maybe some women aren't supposed to be tamed. Maybe they just need to run free till they find someone just as wild to run with them."

(P.S: Motu, this ones for you. I will be waiting for my Sub Melt and Chocolate Avalanche)

Love in a fast-track lane !!!

I just recently happened to travel by Metro in New Delhi. When the metro came, I told myself...what the heck, too crowded, I'll take the next one. And I waited and waited and waited !!!! Spending about 20 minutes of my so called precious time waiting for the 'perfect' metro to travel in.

Arent our relationships like this? We all are waiting for our knight in shining armour or a replica of Heidi Klum or our very own desi version Katrina Kaif. Who knows we might win the Jackpot !!!

Real couples, who do not fight, are socially enviable, love each other unconditionally, have a strong emotional connection and a lot of other things which I fortunately or unfortunately haven't really experienced.
Love in its deepest sense does not consist of gazing in the same direction, holding hands and agreeing to what your 'perfect' partner tells you. Even the most experienced person cannot explain love in its surest form.

The trouble with our generation is that we all are searching for that one person who will make the wait 'worth it' and create moments of happiness for us and himself, if possible.

Who is willing to love a person who's so unwilling to love him/her self??? 

Dive in to your passions, indulge, embrace, let go, transform, celebrate and appreciate your life, isn't that the sole purpose of living !!!
We all have been in a relationship with ourselves for the last 25 years or more and that's the one we really need to take care of !!!

I can make you like me !!!

Lets see how does the cycle of relationship formation work-go to a party, down some drinks, make eye contact with "the" person, flirtatious invite, move on with the kissing and at times wake up next to him....So you are labelled half a couple now. Wow!!! Dat was easy.

Over the next few days, or in some cases years, wonder if you ever had anything in common with that person.
Is this the idea of our generation's consuming "real" love?

In a time of internet dating, dating at wine tasting sessions, speed dating, casual dating, serious dating, are we really looking at finding love or is it just the convenience of it???
What with a pre planned list of topics to be discussed on your first date, making eye contact, all positive talks, current gossips, not trying too hard to impress; we all are conditioned to behave in a programmed fashion. So who exactly are we???

Our sense of self worth is so wrapped up in others' opinion of us that we hide the deeper parts of ourselves from the fear of rejection. It’s better to let someone else decide that you don’t fit, rather than abandon yourself for the sake of being liked or dumping yourself before they can !!!

Go out and tell yourself in 'Carrie' fashion "I' m pretty, I'm smart, I'm nice and I'm a catch!"

Are we in single digits???

Who's Mr Right???

Most girls would scoff at the very idea of a "Mr Right", leave alone wait for him. So does that mean that there is no one perfect man for the one perfect woman or is it an extreme dose of feminism that has betrayed women by telling them they could have it all !!!

A series of college canteen dates, plethora of men friends later, I feel impertinent enough to share some very strong opinion on the male species.
When we have not quite settled the definition of the perfect man, is it just the idea that we are holding on to? When all the men think about the kind of man a woman would want to settle down with, the ladies are wondering where all the gentlemen have gone. Bizarre !!!

We women are so caught up in our own versions of what a perfect man ought to be that the man today has to actually climb a mountain and tread miles before a woman accepts him.
How I wish the choices were simpler !!!

Just how dangerous is an open heart??

Did you ever realise that sometimes even knowing your ownself is a tough task !!!

You do not really know where you are headed, confusions about the men in your life and more about the ones who are not even in your life, tough career choices, pretending to be an acceptable version of yourself,  overcoming fears, living and reliving your dreams, overpowering emotions and clueless !!!

Are we in an age where women are self sufficient???

Welcome aboard for a rendezvous with your self !!!