Being a single amongst so many of your married friends does make you feel alone at times. There are times when people ask you the reason of being alone. There are times when you look at the happy couple and wonder whatever happened to your happy ending. At times, you feel as if life did take a wrong turn for you or maybe you took a wrong path. At times, when I see my closest friend putting red nail paint and baking for her husband, it does bring a tear in my eye. Not because I don't like her doing that but because I want to do the same for someone.
When I look at the photographs of a friend travelling and circling the world with her better half, it makes me see only the joys of marriage. When I look at my friend's son, him beaming with laughter, all I see is the gleam in the eyes of the parents and their love for each other. When I look at a friend putting up statuses for her husband asking him to reassure her of his love for her, I see a kid with hope in her eyes who is craving for love and I see a husband laughing at the status and bringing flowers for her.
When I look at my friend watching football matches and shouting and supporting Manchester United from the rooftops, I see a loving wife who does not understand football, cheering on top of her voice. When I see a friend working out in the gym, I see a husband who is proud of his wife. When I see a friend fighting over the phone complaining about how little time her husband gives her, I see a husband wanting to take his wife out for dinner and holding her hand, walking on the dimply lit street.
When I see a friend crying, I see the husband kissing her forehead, holding her tight and putting her head on his shoulder. When I see a couple fighting, I see them walking up to each other in the midst of the night because they do not want to be alone. When I see a couple working hard, I see their commitment to be with each other, their undying love for each other.
When I see a friend going out shopping with her husband, I see the husband nagging but still offering suggestions to her because he'd rather be with her nagging than be somewhere else without her. When I see a couple ignoring each other, I see two people dying inside to go hug the other person and say 'I am sorry'. When I see a couple not talking to each other after a fight, I see two people wanting to rush to the other one and kiss them.
I've heard people saying that marriage changes you. And I have heard people telling me that marriage changes you, for good. People say it's a fight. I say what in life is not a fight. Each day we are struggling with our own insecurities, some of which break us. What better way to fight those insecurities than with a person who loves you and wants to share each passing day of their life with you. Marriage does not fall apart. It's when two people give up on each other, marriage seems like a burden.
We fight with our parents, our siblings almost daily. But we don't give up on them because we love them and the thought of being away from them scares us. A good relationship is like your career. You have to put in effort, start from the scratch, take courses, keep yourself updated, willing to stay up all night because you want to impress, slog it out until you've got it right, complain and nag at times, but still love it. Just like you make it far from an Executive to the Director in the course of your career, you do the same in your marriage, with a lot of love, a lot of honesty and an equal amount of understanding. It is only when we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
(P.S: Love in marriage should be the accomplishment of a beautiful dream, and not, the end !!)
When I look at the photographs of a friend travelling and circling the world with her better half, it makes me see only the joys of marriage. When I look at my friend's son, him beaming with laughter, all I see is the gleam in the eyes of the parents and their love for each other. When I look at a friend putting up statuses for her husband asking him to reassure her of his love for her, I see a kid with hope in her eyes who is craving for love and I see a husband laughing at the status and bringing flowers for her.
When I look at my friend watching football matches and shouting and supporting Manchester United from the rooftops, I see a loving wife who does not understand football, cheering on top of her voice. When I see a friend working out in the gym, I see a husband who is proud of his wife. When I see a friend fighting over the phone complaining about how little time her husband gives her, I see a husband wanting to take his wife out for dinner and holding her hand, walking on the dimply lit street.
When I see a friend crying, I see the husband kissing her forehead, holding her tight and putting her head on his shoulder. When I see a couple fighting, I see them walking up to each other in the midst of the night because they do not want to be alone. When I see a couple working hard, I see their commitment to be with each other, their undying love for each other.
When I see a friend going out shopping with her husband, I see the husband nagging but still offering suggestions to her because he'd rather be with her nagging than be somewhere else without her. When I see a couple ignoring each other, I see two people dying inside to go hug the other person and say 'I am sorry'. When I see a couple not talking to each other after a fight, I see two people wanting to rush to the other one and kiss them.
I've heard people saying that marriage changes you. And I have heard people telling me that marriage changes you, for good. People say it's a fight. I say what in life is not a fight. Each day we are struggling with our own insecurities, some of which break us. What better way to fight those insecurities than with a person who loves you and wants to share each passing day of their life with you. Marriage does not fall apart. It's when two people give up on each other, marriage seems like a burden.
We fight with our parents, our siblings almost daily. But we don't give up on them because we love them and the thought of being away from them scares us. A good relationship is like your career. You have to put in effort, start from the scratch, take courses, keep yourself updated, willing to stay up all night because you want to impress, slog it out until you've got it right, complain and nag at times, but still love it. Just like you make it far from an Executive to the Director in the course of your career, you do the same in your marriage, with a lot of love, a lot of honesty and an equal amount of understanding. It is only when we seek to discover the best in others, we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.
(P.S: Love in marriage should be the accomplishment of a beautiful dream, and not, the end !!)
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