Phone calls all the time, sharing your darkest secrets, going out watching movies, clubbing, dancing, shopping, dining, lunching, partying, and ending it with a night of physical and only physical pleasure. Welcome to a world where friends come with benefits and emotions come without a tag.
A night at a friends place, alcohol and a few hours of swaying to the music together is what it takes to get two people into an intimate relationship. Or so I was told. When it comes to sex, there is no one who knows your needs better than a friend who you have shared all your desires with. This friend has always been there when you have needed him and doesn't mind going that extra mile to luxuriate you in a sexual activity. No perplexity, no complexity.
A no strings attached relationship is what most youngsters today are looking for. With an advancement of careers and a shift in the work hours, who has time for real relationships? On offer are hook-ups, one night stands and having no strings attached sex with a close friend, who has sexual needs too, rather than a total stranger. So can we say that we live in a time where physical needs surpass emotional needs.
What happened to the good old dating routine which gave you time to know each other and being there for each other? Is sex overrated? Or we have needs that can't wait? Many people decide to stay in these fine relationships not because they consider them the loves of their lives - but because they are comfortable because of past history, mutual interests and friendship. And that is until someone better comes along.
A friend of mine told me that FWB’s don’t sleep together because they can’t keep their hands off each other. They sleep together because there isn’t anyone else more appealing at the moment. I don't seem to disagree with this because I have come across people who in spite of having a doting partner go ahead and indulge in casual and emotionless physical relationships.
But what happens when one of them falls for the other and wants to take the emotional plunge to give a meaningful turn to the 'just friends' relationship. You say all or you say none at all. For our generation, relationships are like a game of monopoly. The more you get into it, the better you think you are getting at it. And the more addictive it gets. What we sometimes forget are the ways to snap out of these so called obsessive cravings.
(P.S: These relationships come with an expiry date and before you know they start to curdle up ruining what you had for what you will never have !!)
A night at a friends place, alcohol and a few hours of swaying to the music together is what it takes to get two people into an intimate relationship. Or so I was told. When it comes to sex, there is no one who knows your needs better than a friend who you have shared all your desires with. This friend has always been there when you have needed him and doesn't mind going that extra mile to luxuriate you in a sexual activity. No perplexity, no complexity.
A no strings attached relationship is what most youngsters today are looking for. With an advancement of careers and a shift in the work hours, who has time for real relationships? On offer are hook-ups, one night stands and having no strings attached sex with a close friend, who has sexual needs too, rather than a total stranger. So can we say that we live in a time where physical needs surpass emotional needs.
What happened to the good old dating routine which gave you time to know each other and being there for each other? Is sex overrated? Or we have needs that can't wait? Many people decide to stay in these fine relationships not because they consider them the loves of their lives - but because they are comfortable because of past history, mutual interests and friendship. And that is until someone better comes along.
A friend of mine told me that FWB’s don’t sleep together because they can’t keep their hands off each other. They sleep together because there isn’t anyone else more appealing at the moment. I don't seem to disagree with this because I have come across people who in spite of having a doting partner go ahead and indulge in casual and emotionless physical relationships.
But what happens when one of them falls for the other and wants to take the emotional plunge to give a meaningful turn to the 'just friends' relationship. You say all or you say none at all. For our generation, relationships are like a game of monopoly. The more you get into it, the better you think you are getting at it. And the more addictive it gets. What we sometimes forget are the ways to snap out of these so called obsessive cravings.
(P.S: These relationships come with an expiry date and before you know they start to curdle up ruining what you had for what you will never have !!)
You have described the movie "Friends with Benefits" so well. Though its fun for short term but dangerous for long term.
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