Eavesdropping on the conversation, checking in on your partner's tweets/comments every 10 minutes (or maybe less), demanding a daily agenda from him/her, deciding on what he/she should wear, lecturing him/her on his/her possessions, keeping a detailed account of his/her minutes and seconds as well, vying to get his/her attention all the time and getting a detailed list of all his/her calls each month.
Scary?? I am sure it is. But true to the core. A lot of us would have come across such relationships: ours or the ones our friends have. People talk about personal space in a relationship but when we give way to a relation in our life, aren't we ourselves reducing the circumference of the personal space? Though the above mentioned account will make anyone scream for help, but what exactly is it that makes people stoop down (for the lack of better word) to such nightmarish attempts? When does insecurity starts to take place in a relation that should be about commitment and bonding? In an attempt to be possessive, most people end up intensifying the distance between two people, giving way to a lot of unwanted personal space.
I personally know of a person who was in a relationship with a girl for over three years. But when it came to dating other females for fun, it did not seem to bother him at all. From dating for fun to sleeping around, from showering his girlfriend with all possible love to not attending her calls for as long as a week, from being scared of commitment to professing his undying love for all the females that he was dating, from being there all the time to nowhere in sight, INFIDELITY was the name of the game!!
I do not know how many of you have seen Unfaithful but I am sure most us have seen Murder. Even after having a nearly perfect partner, what is it in people that steers them towards merely a looker? Why is the care and affection taken for granted? Why is it that people are always on a lookout for 'something better'?
There will always be a time in a relationship where there will be other things that will take over love, but that is just phase and it needs to be rekindled.
Remember melting into sheer gooey chocolate, being able to hear the blood sing in your veins, having your heart leap into your throat? That lightness of step and body? That thrill? The tingling of your fingernails? All this and more at just the sight of your loved one! When time seems to fly and hours become seconds? When you live for the next meeting, and, when the sound of the loved one's voice feels like drops of rain on parched desert sand.
Infidelity might seem like fun in the beginning but it does take an emotional toll on a person. What with leaving your partner for the other person, which one can't be too sure about. Such a relationship might offer stimulation and excitement but not without a price. The reasons for cheating on a partner might differ but it sure isn't a license to cheat. Romance is deception and we all live in that dream world of deception. Most of us would want that to be intact rather than coming face to face with our worst fears.
A very famous author once said: Never tell a loved one of an infidelity: you would be badly rewarded for your troubles. Although one dislikes being deceived, one likes even less to be undeceived.
(P.S: If you marry a man/woman who cheats on his/her wife/husband, You'll be married to a man/woman who cheats on his/her wife/husband!!)
I personally know of a person who was in a relationship with a girl for over three years. But when it came to dating other females for fun, it did not seem to bother him at all. From dating for fun to sleeping around, from showering his girlfriend with all possible love to not attending her calls for as long as a week, from being scared of commitment to professing his undying love for all the females that he was dating, from being there all the time to nowhere in sight, INFIDELITY was the name of the game!!
I do not know how many of you have seen Unfaithful but I am sure most us have seen Murder. Even after having a nearly perfect partner, what is it in people that steers them towards merely a looker? Why is the care and affection taken for granted? Why is it that people are always on a lookout for 'something better'?
There will always be a time in a relationship where there will be other things that will take over love, but that is just phase and it needs to be rekindled.
Remember melting into sheer gooey chocolate, being able to hear the blood sing in your veins, having your heart leap into your throat? That lightness of step and body? That thrill? The tingling of your fingernails? All this and more at just the sight of your loved one! When time seems to fly and hours become seconds? When you live for the next meeting, and, when the sound of the loved one's voice feels like drops of rain on parched desert sand.
Infidelity might seem like fun in the beginning but it does take an emotional toll on a person. What with leaving your partner for the other person, which one can't be too sure about. Such a relationship might offer stimulation and excitement but not without a price. The reasons for cheating on a partner might differ but it sure isn't a license to cheat. Romance is deception and we all live in that dream world of deception. Most of us would want that to be intact rather than coming face to face with our worst fears.
A very famous author once said: Never tell a loved one of an infidelity: you would be badly rewarded for your troubles. Although one dislikes being deceived, one likes even less to be undeceived.
(P.S: If you marry a man/woman who cheats on his/her wife/husband, You'll be married to a man/woman who cheats on his/her wife/husband!!)
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