A series of likes & online chats, succeeded by late night phone calls, long hours spent thinking about each other, that tinge of happiness running through, a beautiful dimpled smile on the face and a lil' playing hard to get!!!
Welcome to the story of new found love in an era of FACEBOOK...
A friend of mine, who I happened to meet after a long time, told me that if marriage has to happen for her, it will only happen for love and for nothing else. Not bad I would say!!!
But where do you meet people who are your age and still single???
IDEA!!!
FACEBOOK!!!
You find the guy interesting, well read, speaks well (or so it seems), cute or handsome (whatever works for you), is chivalrous, likes the same kind of music as you do, likes Thai food (awesome), works with an MNC and is still single (what more could you ask for).
You start 'liking' his pics, his status messages, and his wall posts in an attempt to make him notice you (as if he hasn't done that already). Suddenly, FB seems like the place to be. A series of online chatting and flirting with each other and you develop an affinity towards him.
But, what next???
Inside, you are dying (ok, this is too strong a word) to talk to him. How do you tell him that? Maybe, even he is. But how do you know for sure? You want him to ask you for your number and give you a call (because that is how it is supposed to be).
Welcome to the story of new found love in an era of FACEBOOK...
So...You are tired of all those late night parties, clubbing, saying no to office flings, not really fond of getting hooked on by your friends and you are not attending college anymore where you can be hopeful of dating a person who is ‘your type’ and you do not want to get into that trap of ‘arranged’ marriage which, suddenly has become the new ‘buzz’ word for everyone around you.
A friend of mine, who I happened to meet after a long time, told me that if marriage has to happen for her, it will only happen for love and for nothing else. Not bad I would say!!!
But where do you meet people who are your age and still single???
IDEA!!!
FACEBOOK!!!
You find the guy interesting, well read, speaks well (or so it seems), cute or handsome (whatever works for you), is chivalrous, likes the same kind of music as you do, likes Thai food (awesome), works with an MNC and is still single (what more could you ask for).
You start 'liking' his pics, his status messages, and his wall posts in an attempt to make him notice you (as if he hasn't done that already). Suddenly, FB seems like the place to be. A series of online chatting and flirting with each other and you develop an affinity towards him.
But, what next???
Inside, you are dying (ok, this is too strong a word) to talk to him. How do you tell him that? Maybe, even he is. But how do you know for sure? You want him to ask you for your number and give you a call (because that is how it is supposed to be).
And so it happens....He asks you for your number and that gets you talking. You start liking him all the more. He is so so interesting, more than what you had imagined him to be. So here begins the process of mutual distraction.
There is another friend of mine who is a victim (I think so) of such a romantic relationship. She has never met the guy in person but they really like each other (or so they say). She loves being admired by the guy who also seems to go ga-ga over her. But what happens when you meet the guy? What if he doesn't like you in person? What if you do not have much to talk about then? What if he just liked you as an FB friend? All these what ifs and more seem to question the credibility of the online relationships.
I am not saying that all love stories on FB are doomed. I happen to know quite a few of 'happily ever after' ones too. The whole point here is to be happy of who you are and faking doesn't seem to do any good.
Dating might have become hi-tech but the basic rituals remain much the same. I am sure if I found someone that interesting on FB, I would sure want to give it a shot.
Just like always, every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you!!!
(P.S: There are more than 175 million active users on FB...Go discover your virtual wishful thinking)
I am not saying that all love stories on FB are doomed. I happen to know quite a few of 'happily ever after' ones too. The whole point here is to be happy of who you are and faking doesn't seem to do any good.
Dating might have become hi-tech but the basic rituals remain much the same. I am sure if I found someone that interesting on FB, I would sure want to give it a shot.
Just like always, every person, all the events of your life are there because you have drawn them there. What you choose to do with them is up to you!!!
(P.S: There are more than 175 million active users on FB...Go discover your virtual wishful thinking)
:)
ReplyDeletegood one....
this trend of online chatting, dating and virtually hanging around... started in d initial of this millennium, when the spark of internet with a new craze flew through the youth... leader being Rediff Boll(messenger)... gurlz hunting for guyz n vice versa... brought up a new world on to the web... i had first hand experience... few of my friendzz enjoyed their suscessful dates, arranging online, and to the people who were strangers to them.. some of them had rather more than that, they were privileged to manage more than one gurl, actuallty relationships.. which they believed to be..(i always wonder how they did so!!...)
Then the era of Yahoo! came which took all over... Now Rediff was saying in a way "bye" to the web.. Yahoo came up with a bigger world... it had more features to attract people... say, it provided the private chat rooms, conferencing, etc.... but still, people in illusion, who were not sure that the person they are chatting to, is genuine or fake... they kept remained on their either bed (where they were chatting) or small stool/chair of the cyber cafe...
Time went on and this aspect of internet interaction took the name of Social Netowking... and sites for the same started mashrooming over servers... almost every teenager world wide today knows facebook (leader of today having defeated all other social networking sites..)tweeter, linked Inn amd many mnore sites, which are in hundreds...
More over this has also become a source of advertisements and propaganda...
But what Kanika is talking is also very much true and practically relevant to current scnerio.. Dating of today is also got mordenized.. there was a era of kabbutars... then there was love letters ( which stood for long time), pagers came then, sms (still relevant), emails and now social networking... for any "vella" (free) person there are many "Velle" available online.. this is a trap... a gambe... some get something out of nothing.. others get alot (privileged), and many who remain with fake and just end up getting nothing by paying atleast some thing...
Kanika when i read ur article... i felt that i also know something, though not much... so i felt like contributing to it....
You write very well... n keep writing...
Good Luck..
Jijz ( Nihar )
It is there on yahoo messenger too from the long time....but i think only 2-3% of cases succeed. Most of them are either fakes or lying too much.
ReplyDeleteAlso traditional way has its own charm. Meeting a person and then liking him. It should not be other way round.
Best of luck to you :)
OHH MY MY MY your words "You find the guy interesting, well read, speaks well (or so it seems), cute or handsome (whatever works for you), is chivalrous, likes the same kind of music as you do, likes Thai food (awesome), works with an MNC and is still single (what more could you ask for) " They so truly goes with me lolzzz hahahha still m so single :( :( nywyas must be a problem with me ....:P :P
ReplyDeleteGUESS WHAT ....lets pray the virtual and social network remains tethered to its most dramatic confrontations thts reality...or else the whole foundation of love and dating and fraternising will losse its charm..:)
Anyhow its also effective as the lies and deciet thats so infused in it, is comforting and askance to the privileges of expressionalists....and to the ones who wanted a style statement, but the complexity to overcome there own fears in a the real world is too much to take that next step.
On the social notion it also helped to those who underestimated them , the whole psychology of the tried and tested, that ways the opinions are coming forward coz those resentment and stares of stupid orthodox surprised zombies were averted.
Its neither for or agianst the concept but yes the basic root can somehow change in the future :) :)
and surely by commenting on this I would like to be hunted and give it a try .....and tht helps a lot for a person like me to flow into the marketing skiils and presentation of a person, rather than judging through the actions in real :) :) HAPPY HUNTING to all :)